The Confusing Cognitive Distortion of Quitting Drinking

The Confusing Cognitive Distortion of Quitting Drinking

When you quit drinking, you stop waiting. -Caroline Knapp, Drinking, A Love Story In most facets of life, we are encouraged to not think in polarised – black and white or ‘all-or-nothing’ thinking. These are formally known as cognitive distortions Cognitive distortions are ways that our mind convinces us that a particular belief about ourselves is true, despite contrary evidence that it is not. Living in the grey is logical for most of life’s wonderment. We have to be flexible and open-minded to live in contrast and to attain personal growth. This is true except for that which does not positively serve you. If you want to honour your highest self – your soul consciousness, aka you who is always there, but often disconnected due to your Ego’s interference – you must choose things that serve you and enable you to grow in positive alignment with your path. When it comes to alcohol (or anything that is an addictive component in your life), living in the grey is not an option for some people. So, it’s a confusing cognitive distortion. via GIPHY One cognitive distortion for some drinkers is that they can limit or cut back on how much –… View Post
When Not Drinking Makes Others Uncomfortable

When Not Drinking Makes Others Uncomfortable

When I decided to stop drinking, I understood that coming as a shock to people who know me. I had always been down for cocktails, wine, and drinking socially (and non-socially). So, when I would meet up with people and the conversation of alcohol came up, it would be a needle scratch on the record moment when I would order a diet soda instead of a large glass of cabernet. “ARE YOU PREGNANT?!” No. “ARE YOU DYING?!” No, I mean – we all are, technically, but not yet. “ARE YOU ERIN?!” Now, that’s just rude. I expected this knee-jerk reaction from people who had ever spent any amount of time with me. It was a shock to their system in addition to mine. Then comes the secondary questions: “ARE YOU AN ALCOHOLIC?!” I prefer to not label it as such, but my relationship with alcohol was no longer working for me. “WHY DON’T YOU JUST CUT BACK?!” Been there, done that. It didn’t make sense just to cut back. “ARE YOU NEVER GOING TO DRINK AGAIN?!” I am not a psychic. If I could predict the future, I would have far more interesting insights than whether or not I’m ever… View Post
Happy Sober October!

Happy Sober October!

Does the thought of this gif make you not want to try a month of sobriety? via GIPHY It doesn’t have to be that way (and spoiler alert: it’s not!). For me, every month is a sober month. But for others, Sober October is a month to hit pause on the booze and explore life without hangovers for 31 days. What is Sober in October? Sober October is a charity event where people agree to go alcohol-free for the 31 days of October while raising money for organisations such as MacMillan Cancer Support. The challenge isn’t about giving up drinking for life (although, some people ultimately choose to!). The Sober October challenge encourages a change in drinking habits and to explore how the behavioural lifestyle change could reap long term health benefits. I may be a bit biased (ahem), but life without alcohol is pretty enjoyable. I highly encourage giving it a try. And believe me, when I say this; if I could give up drinking alcohol for the past 576 days, ANYONE could give it up for 31! I’ve decided to dedicate the month of October to offering support to those looking to change their relationship with alcohol. This… View Post
Why You Shouldn’t Try

Why You Shouldn’t Try

Am I saying you shouldn’t bother? Nope. Why shouldn’t you try to do that thing that you say you want to do? Well, let me ask you first, do you really, honestly want it? If the answer is a resounding yes, please do not TRY to do it. There was once this little guy in this big film franchise who said, “Try not. Do or do not. There is no try.” And to quote Elizabeth Gilbert, “When a man who looks like Yoda hands you a prophecy, you have to respond.” In this case, I am directly quoting Yoda, so, naturally, you should listen. In my experience, when a person says, “I’m gonna try” or “I will try to finish” it means that they will make a lacklustre attempt at something, without having the full intention of completing the task. I have seen it with personal training clients, nutrition clients, and I have said it myself. Over and over. So, I know that when I want to do something I settle down and DO it. Why you shouldn’t try When I try, 90% of the time, I quit. When I buckle down and put 150% of my effort and intentions… View Post
My Experience with the ‘Darkside’ of the HAES Community

My Experience with the ‘Darkside’ of the HAES Community

** I am making a disclaimer front and centre so that there are no noncontextual assessments made of this post. I can’t entirely agree with fat-shaming or body shaming of any kind.  I do not think that any person should be treated poorly because of the package they come in. I believe in recovering wellness from any point in a person’s life – in making the most of the health that each of us is capable of attaining. Most importantly, I don’t think any person’s opinions should be ignored just because of the package they come in. While I agree with many views of the Health At Every Size movement, I disagree with the participants of the movement who have become so insular and unwilling to accept facts over extreme feelings  I am not speaking to every member of the HAES community. This post is about individuals refusing to engage outside of their echo chamber and my experience within the community.** Every ‘journey’ takes its detours, and this one is about one of mine. It was a detour down the rabbit hole that is anti-diet culture and radical body positivity. Let me start at the beginning. My previous blog, BeetsPerMinute,… View Post