Calling All Inbetweeners

Calling All Inbetweeners

Hi.  I’m Erin, and I’m an Inbetweener.

I’m going to be a little bit controversial by publishing this post, but it’s something that I’ve thought about many, many, many, ma… a f-ton of times. 

I am not going to be shy about communicating on this blog that I find myself very lost these days when it comes to where I fall into society as I am a ‘master of none’ when it comes to fitting neatly into any particular social group.

via GIPHY

I see so many posts on social media (to which, I am a minimalist ‘user’ of these apps) of women coming at each other for who online should be seen and heard and which opinions should matter and it is easy to walk away from these conversations thinking, “Where the hell do I fit in here?” 

Maybe fitting into the conversation isn’t necessary to you, but it should be to some extent. 

Over the years – from previous blogs I created (RIP, BeetsPerMinute.com) – I have been told I’m a fatphobic personal trainer, sizeist, too fat to be a personal trainer, and that my opinion doesn’t matter because of the package, I come in.  I obviously can’t relate because I am too thin, too fat, or too up my own ass.

Oh, and I live in a foreign country.

It’s exhausting, and I’m not kidding.

And if you’re reading this post, you have probably experienced this too. 

Firstly, I am not a fatphobic person.  I have struggled with my weight and was diagnosed and treated for multiple eating disorders.  I prefer to take care of myself, eat well (but let’s be real, I eat chips, chocolate and diet soda most days of the week) and care for my mental health and how I care for myself creates the package I come in.  I don’t think I’m better than anybody else or that by being who I am; I am saying the package other people come in is any worse.

I work to HELP people repair their relationship with food, and their bodies and part of that is that I talk about exercise and making healthy choices whenever possible. 

On the other hand, I’ve heard comments about how I don’t “look like a trainer” or perplexed looks when I drink a Coke Zero or eat a cheeseburger because people who ‘preach’ – (okay, then) health and fitness shouldn’t be broadcasting such devious behaviour. 

via GIPHY

Sometimes, it simply feels like I can’t win.  I am sure most people feel this way – especially other women. 

These days it feels like no matter what you think or says you are offending somebody.  And sure, people have always been offensive, and I am in no way saying disrespect and degradation should be allowed or excusable, but it would be nice to feel like it’s okay to be still acknowledged as a struggling and evolving human even if somebody else thinks your life is more comfortable than theirs. 

So, what is an Inbetweener – I mean, besides a HILARIOUS British tv show?

via GIPHY

An Inbetweener is a person who is between two extremes, two contrasting conditions.

via GIPHY

I think there are a lot of us Inbetweeners.  Hell, even my age makes me feel like I’m smack dab in a grey area of existence.  I’m too young to be middle-aged and too old to be ‘finding myself’ (as if…).

And too thin to be fat, but too big to be considered skinny and too old to have children but too young to say ‘I’m too old to have children.’

via GIPHY

That’s a very brief overview of the ways that a person can feel like an Inbetweener, but those are just a few that I struggle with. 

And it all comes down to egos (mine included) negatively controlling our identities.  I won’t wax philosophical too deeply here.

via GIPHY

I recently read Ryan Holiday’s book; Ego is the EnemyIn his book, Holiday touches on how social media gives instant fame and recognition thus fuelling ‘ego’ — a person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance — in today’s modern society. 

He discusses how people trap themselves with ‘likes’ and ‘comments’ and develop an obsession with themselves. And that Twitter is the worst showcase of the ego at work by placing the focus on an extreme notion of one’s thoughts and opinions being important.

via GIPHY

Don’t get me wrong, I’ve seen some great stuff on Twitter and obviously I encourage the sharing of tweets, but Holiday’s take on the ego’s role in social media usage made me think about that saying, “If everyone is special no one is”.

via GIPHY

I mean I have this blog, and it’s nothing special, but I enjoy writing about the things I think about and if you want to read it, awesome.  But like also, why do I think anybody would like it?  Would I hope people do? Of course.

The ego's role in social media usage made me think about that saying, “If everyone is special no one is”. #ego #selfawareness Click To Tweet

But see, the key to taming the ego is sharing your gifts with others while remaining humble about it – and this is something many people fail to do these days.

People will protect themselves and their opinions (egos) no matter the result. 

Even if the result of such protection forces many people to feel as though they don’t belong in any particular group. 

Or maybe we don’t need to belong, after all.

What do you think?

5 of My Favourite Mocktail Recipes

five perfect mocktail recipes for teetotalers

It might seem that alcohol is everywhere and tough to avoid, but according to statistics, young people (and I don’t necessarily count myself as one of them!) are drinking less than people in the same age group did 10-15 years ago.  Remember when everybody used to smoke and now when a person lights up we are like:

via GIPHY

Is it possible that drinking is on the same trajectory?  I live in Glasgow, and the drinking culture seems alive and well and thriving; this is especially evident when I go out for my early Saturday morning run and have to dodge piles of uneaten chips and other unpleasantries of the night before.

All of this information is more confirmation that I have made the right choice to embrace sober living and steer clear of alcohol and its short-lived-fun shelf life.

Just because I have given up drinking alcohol doesn’t mean that I can’t enjoy a delicious and pretty beverage.  Mocktails are on the rise; I even attended Club Soda’s mindful drinking festival in Glasgow back in October.

I never thought I would be typing enthusiastically about a festival without alcohol.

I also never thought I would be typing enthusiastically about my passion for making mixed drinks without alcohol in them, but here I am.

5 Mocktail Recipes That Won't Make You Miss the Booze #mindfuldrinking #alcoholfree Click To Tweet

Here are five of my favourite mocktail recipes

Raw Raspberry Shrub (via BBC Good Food)

5 of My Favourite Mocktail Recipes

Cucumber, lime and elderflower cooler (via Tesco Real Food)

Mountain Mojito Mocktail (via Town and Country)

Rose Lemon Spritzer Mocktail (via Elle Decor)

Non-Alcoholic Pimms (via Club Soda)

CHEERS!

Do you have a favourite non-alcoholic drink?  Do you think that it is becoming less of a stigma not to order non-alcoholic drinks on a night out?  Would you attend a mindful drinking festival?

Super Quick Mock Sangria Recipe

quick and easy mock sangria recipe

Ole! I remember the first time I had a glass of Sangria. It was fruity and bitter and sweet and kinda perfect.

As I got older (and more into what kind of alcohol I liked), I absolutely loved to purchase the sangria you could buy in a carton (shout out to adult premium beverages in tetrapacks — because if you’re gonna drink, you might as well be environmentally friendly about it!) and just stick a straw in it.

Easy, breezy, beautifully buzzed.

My go-to for ready-made sangria was always Don Simon — which is basically red wine and fizzy citrus soda.

So, now that I no longer drink alcohol, I have to get creative in the ‘mocktail’ category.

So, one day I started thinking about the ready-made Sangria and what it actually tasted like — despite the alcohol and a lightbulb went off in my head.

I always have ideas but, like 25% or less of them ever work out in my favour — let’s be real.

Here is my go-to, quick mock sangria (done two ways)

If you're looking for a yummy alcohol-free option try my quick go-to mock sangria (done two ways)! Click To Tweet

If you’re making this for a party — or you really wanna go crazy with things:

If you’re just making one glass for yourself (you’ll probably make at least two, though):

Do you have a favourite mocktail recipe? Please share!

25-Minute HIIT Cycling Workout + Playlist

25-MINUTE HIIT Cycling Workout

If you used to follow my old blog, BeetsPerMinute, you know that back home in the States I used to be a Spinning instructor.

I need to be one again – I do miss it so.

via GIPHY

I often receive requests for fun workouts and playlists and recently I’ve had several requests for HIIT cycle routines, which happen to be some of my favourite workouts to create and do, so I’m always happy to share them.

Life is crazy, and not everybody has 60-90 minutes to put into their workouts.  It doesn’t make you a failure or unmotivated either – and if anybody tells you that, they are dead wrong. If you see a theme with (most) of my workouts it’s that they are quick, fun and effective.

If you’re like me, you have days (maybe multiple) when you just don’t feel like doing exercise – especially in the winter.  And this is entirely okay.  Do not beat yourself up for not feeling it some days and sitting out your workout.  It’s not a morality thing, it’s self-care, and it’s 100% up to you how and when you move your body.

You don’t need to spend your entire day to get a fun, sweaty, and effective workout that you can be proud of.  Believe me; every little bit helps and if you’re not doing your workouts for you, then who?

I still remember the first Spinning class I ever attended; one of my best friends was the instructor, and after literal months of twisting my arm, I finally agreed to participate.

I didn’t have the shoes, so my foot came loose.  Repeatedly.  My ass was killing me from the seat.  I couldn’t walk.  I wasn’t smitten with the idea of going back, but my friend assured me that you have to give it a few classes before you make your final judgment.

Try this 25-Minute HIIT Cycling Workout + Playlist #fitness #HIIT #Cardio Click To Tweet

As a fitness professional, who also went on to become a Spinning instructor, I would always tell newbies that they need to give it the three class try.  Most of them would and fell in love with indoor cycling too.

One of the things that make indoor cycling workouts so much fun is the music.  Nothing will make you more motivated and pumped to push yourself than hearing a high energy song.

25-Minute HIIT Cycling Workout + Playlist

So, if you’re looking for a fun and quick HIIT cycling workout and playlist, pin this one and save it for your next workout.

Do you love Spinning or indoor cycling workouts? What’s your favourite workout song?

3 Steps For Finding A Silver Lining (In Any Situation)

3 STEPS FOR FINDING THE IN ANY


Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn’t learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn’t learn a little, at least we didn’t get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn’t die; so, let us all be thankful.

Buddha

What’s an attitude of gratitude? It’s living your life from the perspective of appreciating what you have instead of focusing on what you do not. You may hear this phrase when people talk about an ‘abundance’ mindset vs. one of ‘scarcity’.

We all struggle with finding positive value in the shitty things that happen in our lives. Believe me, this is something I have struggled with my entire life. In fact, I remember when I was 29 years old I had a terribly toxic boss and suffered with so much anxiety. One day I was helping the HR director – telling her about how tough my prior year had been after losing my job, health insurance, and a personal financial crisis and that things, “couldn’t get much worse.” Naturally, her reply was, “Love, if there is anything I know in this life it is that things surely get better but they can definitely get worse.”

She was right, less than two years later my father was diagnosed with terminal colon cancer and passed away. Things can definitely get worse.

via GIPHY

Believe it or not, as much as I miss my father – I learned so much about life helping to care for him during his illness and in losing him. Of course, I would trade anything to have him back, but I also don’t know if I would be the person I am right now – typing this blog – if I didn’t go through one of the worst things a person can endure, the loss of a parent.

"Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn't learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn't learn a little, at least we didn't get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn't die; so, let us all be thankful." – Buddha Click To Tweet

A major lesson I have learned in all of my professional training is how find a way to utilise all of my losses and failures as a way to make the path for the hope of better things to come.

via GIPHY

We’ve all had times in our lives where something we’ve put a lot of ourselves into didn’t work out.  There are not enough words to describe the negative emotions we feel when this type of rejection or loss occurs, not to mention what it does to our motivation and self-esteem.

The truth is, we can learn to internalise and these negative experiences and transform the energy associated with them into positive choices and new directions.

3 Steps For Finding A Silver Lining In Any Situation

  1. Ask yourself, “What can I learn from this situation?”  Maybe you’ve lost your job, ended a significant relationship, or found out some crappy news in general.  Regardless of which end of the spectrum an event is perceived to be on, there’s always something to be learned — whether it’s about yourself, another person, or situation.  Maybe the lesson you learned is that you have to be more or less trusting.  Maybe the lesson you learned is that you didn’t feel happy in the job you lost (I’ve so been there on this one)!  Maybe the lesson you learned is that you need to take better care of yourself or start making your well-being a priority. Or even that you need to tell the people you care about how special they are more often. Choosing to take a bad situation and turn it into a lesson learned will enable you to grow emotionally and spiritually.
  2. Ask yourself, “What am I able to do now that I wasn’t able to do before?”  In any situation, your opportunities will change.  Try to focus on how this opportunity will give you the ability to do something (or many things) you weren’t able to do before.  What skills did you gain from your last job?  If you’re out of a relationship or toxic friendship what time — more importantly energy — do you have to now devote to something that will make you happier, stronger, and more fulfilled?  Maybe now you’re more able to speak up for yourself and communicate what you do and don’t want out a relationship/friendship.  There is no way that you have not gained the ability to do something bigger and better today that you couldn’t have done yesterday.  Discover this, rebuild and go forward.
  3. Ask yourself, “Do I have perspective?”   Not to belittle yourself or your struggles, but if you can step back from any situation and answer yes to any, some, or all of the following, you’ve got a lot to be thankful for:
    Do I have my health?
    Do I have a place to live?
    Do I have clothes on my back?
    Do I have food to eat?
    Do I have a support system and people whom I love, and that love me?

While some of these things may seem basic and not like much to celebrate, take some time to appreciate each and every item you answered yes to. Being able to truly appreciate all that you do have – right now – is the biggest silver lining of all. Well that and giving back to others who are struggling with something that you may take for granted is one of the most powerful exercises in gratitude out there.

Practicing an attitude of gratitude is all about appreciating everything for what it is right now, and sometimes that means choosing to be content with all the silver (grey) events.

Do you look for the silver lining in bad situations?  How do you practice an attitude of gratitude?