Approval, Addiction and Approval Addiction

Approval, Addiction and Approval Addiction

“If you are an approval addict, your behaviour is as easy to control as that of any other junkie. All a manipulator need do is a simple two-step process: Give you what you crave, and then threaten to take it away. Every drug dealer in the world plays this game.” -Harriet B. Braiker I don’t know if that quote resonates with you, but it sure makes a whole lot of sense to me. Deeply ingrained within all approval addicts — or addicts in general — is the lack of a sense of self.  A lack of understanding of the self always leads us to believe that external approval and validation are the essential parts of holding together our identity. Have you ever wondered why someone as sweet and giving as you always end up in relationships (romantic, friendship, business.) with people who don’t understand or appreciate all that you do for them? And when things don’t go the way we want them to and that relationship fails to provide us with the feedback that we are “doing enough” or “accomplished enough” or “good enough” why we turn to external methods to preoccupy that discomfort? Approval addiction is a layered disease… View Post
Calling All Inbetweeners

Calling All Inbetweeners

Hi.  I’m Erin, and I’m an Inbetweener. I’m going to be a little bit controversial by publishing this post, but it’s something that I’ve thought about many, many, many, ma… a f-ton of times.  I am not going to be shy about communicating on this blog that I find myself very lost these days when it comes to where I fall into society as I am a ‘master of none’ when it comes to fitting neatly into any particular social group. via GIPHY I see so many posts on social media (to which, I am a minimalist ‘user’ of these apps) of women coming at each other for who online should be seen and heard and which opinions should matter and it is easy to walk away from these conversations thinking, “Where the hell do I fit in here?”  Maybe fitting into the conversation isn’t necessary to you, but it should be to some extent.  Over the years – from previous blogs I created (RIP, BeetsPerMinute.com) – I have been told I’m a fatphobic personal trainer, sizeist, too fat to be a personal trainer, and that my opinion doesn’t matter because of the package, I come in.  I obviously can’t… View Post
5 of My Favourite Mocktail Recipes

5 of My Favourite Mocktail Recipes

It might seem that alcohol is everywhere and tough to avoid, but according to statistics, young people (and I don’t necessarily count myself as one of them!) are drinking less than people in the same age group did 10-15 years ago.  Remember when everybody used to smoke and now when a person lights up we are like: via GIPHY Is it possible that drinking is on the same trajectory?  I live in Glasgow, and the drinking culture seems alive and well and thriving; this is especially evident when I go out for my early Saturday morning run and have to dodge piles of uneaten chips and other unpleasantries of the night before. All of this information is more confirmation that I have made the right choice to embrace sober living and steer clear of alcohol and its short-lived-fun shelf life. Just because I have given up drinking alcohol doesn’t mean that I can’t enjoy a delicious and pretty beverage.  Mocktails are on the rise; I even attended Club Soda’s mindful drinking festival in Glasgow back in October. I never thought I would be typing enthusiastically about a festival without alcohol. I also never thought I would be typing enthusiastically about my passion for making… View Post
Super Quick Mock Sangria Recipe

Super Quick Mock Sangria Recipe

Ole! I remember the first time I had a glass of Sangria. It was fruity and bitter and sweet and kinda perfect. As I got older (and more into what kind of alcohol I liked), I absolutely loved to purchase the sangria you could buy in a carton (shout out to adult premium beverages in tetrapacks — because if you’re gonna drink, you might as well be environmentally friendly about it!) and just stick a straw in it. Easy, breezy, beautifully buzzed. My go-to for ready-made sangria was always Don Simon — which is basically red wine and fizzy citrus soda. So, now that I no longer drink alcohol, I have to get creative in the ‘mocktail’ category. So, one day I started thinking about the ready-made Sangria and what it actually tasted like — despite the alcohol and a lightbulb went off in my head. I always have ideas but, like 25% or less of them ever work out in my favour — let’s be real. Here is my go-to, quick mock sangria (done two ways) If you’re making this for a party — or you really wanna go crazy with things: 1 liter of Fanta Orange (I use… View Post
25-Minute HIIT Cycling Workout + Playlist

25-Minute HIIT Cycling Workout + Playlist

If you used to follow my old blog, BeetsPerMinute, you know that back home in the States I used to be a Spinning instructor. I need to be one again – I do miss it so. I often receive requests for fun workouts and playlists and recently I’ve had several requests for HIIT cycle routines, which happen to be some of my favourite workouts to create and do, so I’m always happy to share them. Life is crazy, and not everybody has 60-90 minutes to put into their workouts.  It doesn’t make you a failure or unmotivated either – and if anybody tells you that, they are dead wrong. If you see a theme with (most) of my workouts it’s that they are quick, fun and effective. If you’re like me, you have days (maybe multiple) when you just don’t feel like doing exercise – especially in the winter.  And this is entirely okay.  Do not beat yourself up for not feeling it some days and sitting out your workout.  It’s not a morality thing, it’s self-care, and it’s 100% up to you how and when you move your body. You don’t need to spend your entire day to get… View Post