9 Ways to Access Your Inner Strength During Traumatic Experiences*

9 ways to access your inner strength during traumatic experiences

*9 Ways to Access Your Inner Strength During Traumatic Experiences” was originally published on lonerwolf.com.

Almost all of us have experienced some kind of traumatic or shocking event.

When I speak of trauma, I don’t always mean extreme situations such as natural disasters, instances of abuse, rape, murder, and accidents.

While traumatic experiences often are severe and horrific, they can also be seemingly “mundane” experiences such as losing a job, daily stress, divorcing, and moving somewhere foreign.

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Trauma also can, and often does, come as a result of the spiritual awakening process in which our entire self-concept begins to crumble and we’re thrown into the abyss of an existential crisis.

Trauma is unique for each person. While we might find changing jobs just another daily task, another person may find the switch highly distressing. We should be very careful about judging other people when it comes to trauma. Every person is different and possesses different levels of sensitivity.

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traumatic experience is anything that severely threatens your emotional, psychological or physical well-being.

Essentially, trauma is anything that causes us to feel like we’re losing or have lost control.

Feeling traumatized is often accompanied by the experiences of feeling:

  1. Numb or disconnected from the world
  2. Sad and hopeless
  3. Anxious and fearful
  4. Hypervigilance (constantly looking out for danger)
  5. Confused and unable to concentrate
  6. Shocked and/or in denial
  7. Angry or rageful
  8. Moody and irritable
  9. Guilty or ashamed
  10. Self-loathing
  11. The need to withdraw from others

The danger with coming to terms with the fact that you have been traumatized is the tendency to adopt the role of a victim – also known as a victim mentality.

If you have read this list and discovered that you’re going through a traumatic experience, I want to invite you to notice the tendency to start attaching to the idea that you’re a victim. While it’s important that we come to terms with our trauma, it is very harmful, disempowering, and addictive to start thinking of yourself as a victim who is at the mercy of others/life. It’s much more empowering to see yourself as a survivor/warrior, than a victim.

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The Importance of Tapping Into Your Inner Strength

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Trauma is essentially what happens when we feel totally powerless, and are frozen internally into that state of being.

But here’s the liberating truth: power comes from within. Whatever goes on outside of you is nothing compared to the courage, clarity, and compassion that already lies within your Soul.

Learning how to tap into your inner strength – the power of your inner wolf – is really about developing self-compassion. When you’re able to access this self-compassion, you will discover that nothing can truly harm you, because nothing can take away the untouchable divine strength of your inner Self. And when you realize that nothing can truly hurt you at your core, you will feel empowered and able to deal with anything that comes your way.

9 Ways to Access Your Inner Strength During Traumatic Experiences

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Like most people, I have gone through traumatic experiences such as emotional abuse, having a drug-addicted mother, going through a spiritual awakening process, dealing with mentally ill family members, feeling like I’m going crazy myself, among many other things.

Two of the most powerful and life-changing tools I discovered during these dark times were self-love and thought inquiry. Learning to take care of myself with loving kindness and discovering that believing thoughts actually create suffering freed me from a lot of anger, fear, and shame.

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Here are some key ways to access your inner strength during periods of extreme stress, illness, loss, vulnerability, and pain:

1. Treat yourself with love and compassion

Notice the tendency for the inner critic to start judging you for “not having it all together” or for “being weak.” Counteract any critical thought with compassionate and encouraging words. For example, you might say to yourself, “It’s OK to feel this way,” “I’m doing the best I can,” “I love you no matter what,” or “I’m here for you.” How would you speak to a child who has experienced what you have gone through? If it helps, address your kindness to your inner child. Treat yourself with love and compassion. (If you need more help learning how to be self-nurturing, explore these inner child healing exercises in our Inner Child Journal.)

2. Allow yourself to feel what you feel

One of the greatest causes of long-term suffering is the repression of our emotions. While it’s not always possible to feel our emotions after a traumatic circumstance, it is vital at some point to re-experience anything that we have shut away inside. Whatever we repress or suppress tends to have a way of building up within us like volcanic lava. At some point, we need to let it all out, and this will either happen consciously and intentionally – or as a catastrophic unconscious reaction to something that triggers us (just like a volcanic eruption).

In order to “feel it to heal it” you need to find a healthy form of catharsis. For instance, you might seek out a therapist to speak with, practice journaling, explore art therapy or even delve into more traditional forms of catharsis such as crying, screaming or physical workout (such as punching).

3. Breathe deeply

During traumatic circumstances, our minds tend to race and our breathing becomes shallow. The more shallow our breathing becomes, the more anxiety we feel, and the more our minds go crazy – and vice versa. To break this loop, breathe slowly, softly, and deeply into your stomach. Deep breathing stimulates the vagus nerve in the body which sends signals to the brain to calm down. If you’re struggling to breathe deeply, try noticing your in-breath and out-breath. Mindfully focus on the sensations in your body and what it feels like to be scared. If you can, try to become curious about what is happening in your mind and body. If you’re feeling extremely wired-up, find one part of your body that feels relaxed and grounded (that could be your big toe, your ear lobe, your hands, your shins – anything). Focus on this part of your body and feel the anxious energy dissipate within you. Breathing deeply and paying mindful attention helps to create more space inside of you to calm down and become balanced again.

4. Go slowly

Working, moving, and speaking quickly tends to add to the stress we feel during painful circumstances. Allow yourself to slow down and reduce the tempo. Give yourself the space to process what is happening. Notice your addiction to working quickly and how it tends to cause the mind to get lost in thoughts of the past and future. Do one thing at a time, and ignore people who try to pressure you. Your health and mental wellbeing are paramount. The world won’t end if you slow down, but it will feel better to inhabit.

5. Let go of self-victimizing thoughts

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When we believe our thoughts, we suffer. But here’s the thing: your thoughts don’t actually mean anything about you unless you believe they do. Thoughts are simply fluctuations of energy. We don’t control our thoughts, otherwise, don’t you think we would always choose to think happy thoughts? We can’t even predict what the next five thoughts in our head will be. Therefore, if we don’t control our thoughts, how can we actually be our thoughts? How can our thoughts be true?

The root cause of all suffering is believing and identifying with thoughts instead of witnessing them and letting them go. When we experience trauma, the mind tends to create thoughts about how terrible our lives are and begins to create an identity around suffering (known as the victim complex). The moment we begin believing self-victimizing and self-pitying thoughts is the precise moment we experience intense suffering. But when we notice and become aware of these thoughts, and don’t identify with them, we don’t suffer.

Learning how to access your inner strength is about teaching yourself to become aware of these intrusive thoughts and realize that they only mean something if you believe they do. Otherwise, these thoughts come and go without hassle or worry. One of the best ways to stop identifying with your thoughts is through a regular meditation practice and self-inquiry. I recommend Scott Kiloby and Byron Katie as two excellent self-inquiry teachers.

6. Remember a situation in the past that you survived

If you’re struggling to trust your inner strength, try recalling a tough situation in the past that you got through. Simply remembering that you got through something difficult in the past can help strengthen your resolve in the present.

7. Ask for guidance

Asking for help isn’t a sign of weakness, it’s actually a sign of inner strength! When you seek help, you are being courageous and admitting that you don’t have all the answers, which is perfectly normal. Try seeking support from a trusted loved one, trained therapist or praying to a higher power such as your Soul. (See this article on the power of prayer for more help.) If you are in desperate need of guidance, I recommend seeking out a therapist.

8. Keep in mind that everything passes

No matter how much pain or suffering you’re going through right now, remember that everything passes, everything. Think back to a problem you had in the past, perhaps five or ten years ago. Where is that problem now? By reminding yourself of the philosophy “this too shall pass” you will bring yourself out of the narrow focus of the mind to see a bigger picture.

9. Connect with your Soul

Your Soul is the very core and essence of who you truly are. It’s at the very center of your being: the place that is full of your own unique spark of Divinity. Many describe the Soul as a feeling of deep inner knowing, unfathomable self-love, boundless compassion, deep wisdom, and profound strength.

The reason why so many of us feel lost in life is that we’ve lost touch with our Soul essence, and as a result, experience Soul loss. How many times have you felt the longing to return home? To find inner peace? To break free? This is a call from the Soul inviting you back home. This is your Soul trying to open a doorway to expanded consciousness – to wake up out of the dream that so many of us fall into within society.

One of the simplest and most direct ways to reconnect with your Soul is through a practice known as Mirror Work. The mirror, traditionally, is a mystical object that shows us reality, plain and clear. What better way to rediscover the truth of who you really are?

When we glance into the mirror we come in contact with the windows of our Soul: the eyes. By gazing into our eyes, and calling on the presence of our Souls, it is quite easy to experience a sense of peace, well-being, trust, and love.

However, Mirror Work can often show us inner parts that make us feel uncomfortable or embarrassed. It’s common to have self-loathing, critical, and judgmental feelings and thoughts while looking at ourselves in the mirror. That’s why Mirror Work is well accompanied by some form of Shadow Work (or looking at our dark side).

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Aletheia Luna is an influential spiritual writer whose work has touched the lives of millions worldwide. After escaping the religious cult she was raised in, Luna experienced a profound existential crisis that led to her spiritual awakening. As a spiritual counselor and author, Luna’s mission is to help others find love, strength, and inner light in even the darkest of places. See more of her work at lonerwolf.com.

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Mateo Sol is a prominent psychospiritual teacher whose work has influenced the lives of millions globally. Born into a family with a history of drug addiction, abuse, and mental illness, Mateo Sol was taught about the plight of the human condition from a young age. As a spiritual mentor and soul guide, Sol’s mission is to help others experience freedom, wholeness, and peace in all stages of life. See more of his work at lonerwolf.com.

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