5 Quotes to Help You Maintain Sobriety (and Sanity) During #StayHome

5 Quotes to Help You Maintain Sobriety (and Sanity) During #StayHome

The world is a complicated and yet often simplistic place. In these ever-changing times that we are living in, it may seem like at any moment you want to pull the hatch and escape into something that feels, well, less shitty. So, here are five quotes to help you maintain sobriety (and sanity) during #StayHome – as well as my two cents on each one, because why not? I get it. Years ago, if I were forced to spend all of my free time indoors and isolated from others, I would have used that for a time to pick myself apart, focus on my fears/inadequacies, and be doing it with a bottle of wine not far from my hands. I’m not going to say that there have been no moments in the past six weeks when I have not thought, ‘wouldn’t it be nice to escape this?’ — I did have those thoughts, but I now know that you can’t escape. The only way to the other side of anything is to face it and embrace it. And one thing that has helped me the most in my now 792 days alcohol-free is wisdom from others. There is no better… View Post
Three Lessons I’ve Learned From Living Two Years Alcohol-Free

Three Lessons I’ve Learned From Living Two Years Alcohol-Free

It’s that time again! Another year has passed since I decided to give up alcohol. Year two was not without its challenges, but I continue to believe that I am gaining more from my current lifestyle than I ever did while I was still drinking. This post could have filled an entire book – and maybe it will be one day (I hope!) — but, for now, I will keep it short by quickly sharing the three lessons I’ve learned from living two years alcohol-free. I love being in my head I used to think that being in my head was the worst and most detrimental space I could exist. I no longer feel that way, because my mind is clear and my anxiety is managed through better coping mechanisms. I can spend so much time by myself these days – in fact, I find myself NEEDING to be alone more than I ever did before. To be honest, when I would need alone time when I was still a drinker, it would be to drink wine on my own – without anybody judging me or invading that ‘sacred’ space that I so longed for. When I was in my… View Post
Four Things You’re Giving Up When You Quit Drinking Alcohol

Four Things You’re Giving Up When You Quit Drinking Alcohol

Always do sober what you said you’d do when you were drunk. That’ll teach you to keep your mouth shut. Ernest Hemingway “Don’t you miss it?” — the question I’ve been asked a bunch of times since I quit drinking alcohol. “Sometimes, but not really.” — my usual response. “Well, you’re much more driven than I am, I couldn’t quit drinking, I love my wine too much, how do you stick to it?” — the question I’ve been asked at least half a dozen times since I quit drinking alcohol. “Have you ever had a wine hangover? Thinking about that makes the thought of drinking pass pretty quickly. I guess I’m motivated by waking up clear-headed, feeling rested, and without a head full of anxiety.” -my usual response. So many people view giving up alcohol — or anything really — as being deprived. And I suppose by nature abstaining from anything could be considered deprivation. Or it could be viewed as the opportunity to gain something else in its place. It’s merely a matter of what your relationship is with that something that determines which end of the spectrum not having it will fall. I don’t view giving up alcohol… View Post
Attending My First Sober Wedding in 18 Years

Attending My First Sober Wedding in 18 Years

If something bad happens, you drink in an attempt to forget; if something good happens, you drink in order to celebrate; and if nothing happens, you drink to make something happen -Charles Bukowski . Even though I am a married woman, I’ve never been much of a fan of weddings. For some, the environment of weddings is hopeful and inspirational and for others – like me – weddings are full of questionable energy and an open bar – not the best of combos. I am just back from a two-week trip to America with my husband built around the celebration of my little sister’s wedding. It wasn’t my first trip back home since I quit drinking, but it was the first wedding I had attended since I boarded the sobriety wagon. Incidentally, it’s also the first summer in five years that I have been able to hit the beach – and get a tan! Every wedding I’ve attended in the past two decades – including my own – I drank at — a lot. I always believed that was what people go to a wedding for – and I know more than once I’ve heard people say that the ‘open… View Post
How To Fake a Rum and Coke

How To Fake a Rum and Coke

There is a divide in the non-drinking community where some people believe that drinking mocktails and zero alcohol beers, wines and spirits is counter-productive to abstainig from alcohol. I disagree. Some people genuinely like mixology or the taste of beer. Back in my twenties, I used to watch my father nurse a six-pack of Odoul’s Beer over the summer and not get it.“What’s the point in drinking a beer with no alcohol?” To which my father would reply, “I like the taste of beer, but I don’t like the effects of alcohol.” Fast-forward about a decade and I totally see where he was coming from. Where I can understand people being concerned about the cognitive associations between a zero alcohol glass of Chardonnay, I can also understand that some people like the taste of a drink but not its side effects. Okay, now that we’ve scratched that surface – on to today’s post; How to fake a Rum and Coke. via GIPHY How to fake a Rum & Coke First, a public service announcement: I drink sugar-free beverages – or as they say here in Scotland, ‘fizzy drinks’ – so if that’s not your thing, you might not like this.… View Post