Three Tips To Respond Effectively (Instead of Reacting)

Three Tips To Respond Effectively (Instead of Reacting)

One of the things my late father used to repeatedly tell me was how reactionary of a person I was. I am a highly sensitive person and empathetic to what I used to think was a fault and so most interactions would result in a kneejerk reaction from yours truly. I lacked the insight to respond effectively (instead of reacting). I’m also a sarcastic person, so at times my quick-witted retorts would garner me some positive attention. via GIPHY A confusing paradigm for a person who relied so heavily on the approval and appraisal of others to feel good about being me. My need to react felt like something I would never be able to control and it got me into many situations that I didn’t need nor want. The thing is, all behaviour is a choice. One of the few things we have control over is how we choose to interact with circumstance. Most of us will react to a situation only to play out how we could have handled it differently. Sometimes for better, others for worse. If we become aware of what’s happening before we act, behaviour becomes a function of choice rather than a result of… View Post
Four Things You’re Giving Up When You Quit Drinking Alcohol

Four Things You’re Giving Up When You Quit Drinking Alcohol

Always do sober what you said you’d do when you were drunk. That’ll teach you to keep your mouth shut. Ernest Hemingway “Don’t you miss it?” — the question I’ve been asked a bunch of times since I quit drinking alcohol. “Sometimes, but not really.” — my usual response. “Well, you’re much more driven than I am, I couldn’t quit drinking, I love my wine too much, how do you stick to it?” — the question I’ve been asked at least half a dozen times since I quit drinking alcohol. “Have you ever had a wine hangover? Thinking about that makes the thought of drinking pass pretty quickly. I guess I’m motivated by waking up clear-headed, feeling rested, and without a head full of anxiety.” -my usual response. So many people view giving up alcohol — or anything really — as being deprived. And I suppose by nature abstaining from anything could be considered deprivation. Or it could be viewed as the opportunity to gain something else in its place. It’s merely a matter of what your relationship is with that something that determines which end of the spectrum not having it will fall. I don’t view giving up alcohol… View Post