Three Tips To Respond Effectively (Instead of Reacting)

Three Tips To Respond Effectively (Instead of Reacting)

One of the things my late father used to repeatedly tell me was how reactionary of a person I was. I am a highly sensitive person and empathetic to what I used to think was a fault and so most interactions would result in a kneejerk reaction from yours truly. I lacked the insight to respond effectively (instead of reacting). I’m also a sarcastic person, so at times my quick-witted retorts would garner me some positive attention. via GIPHY A confusing paradigm for a person who relied so heavily on the approval and appraisal of others to feel good about being me. My need to react felt like something I would never be able to control and it got me into many situations that I didn’t need nor want. The thing is, all behaviour is a choice. One of the few things we have control over is how we choose to interact with circumstance. Most of us will react to a situation only to play out how we could have handled it differently. Sometimes for better, others for worse. If we become aware of what’s happening before we act, behaviour becomes a function of choice rather than a result of… View Post
Thirteen Ways To Combat Depression

Thirteen Ways To Combat Depression

Depression. It’s not a word that is much of a secret anymore. You hear it thrown around social media or magazines, and you hear all about it when it comes to Mental Health Week. The media make it look beautiful and sad, delicate – like glass. The thing is, it’s those who suffer from depression that know it for what it is – crushing. Difficult. Challenging. Scary. All of the words that make you feel out of control and worried surround depression, and it’s something that can be so debilitating. It can stop you from feeling any form of happiness, and even when you can’t figure out the source of your depression, it’s still there. It still hangs over your head like a fog that won’t go. Depression stops you from living. It can stop you from leaving your house, and it can fuel anxiety. It can make you feel physical symptoms, to the point that when you decide to go ahead and get some help, you use an online doctor service because the idea of leaving the house and having to face people is just too hard to bear. It’s not just like feeling sad when you miss the bus. It’s a… View Post
3 Steps For Finding A Silver Lining (In Any Situation)

3 Steps For Finding A Silver Lining (In Any Situation)

Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn’t learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn’t learn a little, at least we didn’t get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn’t die; so, let us all be thankful. Buddha What’s an attitude of gratitude? It’s living your life from the perspective of appreciating what you have instead of focusing on what you do not. You may hear this phrase when people talk about an ‘abundance’ mindset vs. one of ‘scarcity’. We all struggle with finding positive value in the shitty things that happen in our lives. Believe me, this is something I have struggled with my entire life. In fact, I remember when I was 29 years old I had a terribly toxic boss and suffered with so much anxiety. One day I was helping the HR director – telling her about how tough my prior year had been after losing my job, health insurance, and a personal financial crisis and that things, “couldn’t get much worse.” Naturally, her reply was, “Love, if there is anything I know in this life it is that things surely get better… View Post