The Confusing Cognitive Distortion of Quitting Drinking

The Confusing Cognitive Distortion of Quitting Drinking

When you quit drinking, you stop waiting. -Caroline Knapp, Drinking, A Love Story In most facets of life, we are encouraged to not think in polarised – black and white or ‘all-or-nothing’ thinking. These are formally known as cognitive distortions Cognitive distortions are ways that our mind convinces us that a particular belief about ourselves is true, despite contrary evidence that it is not. Living in the grey is logical for most of life’s wonderment. We have to be flexible and open-minded to live in contrast and to attain personal growth. This is true except for that which does not positively serve you. If you want to honour your highest self – your soul consciousness, aka you who is always there, but often disconnected due to your Ego’s interference – you must choose things that serve you and enable you to grow in positive alignment with your path. When it comes to alcohol (or anything that is an addictive component in your life), living in the grey is not an option for some people. So, it’s a confusing cognitive distortion. via GIPHY One cognitive distortion for some drinkers is that they can limit or cut back on how much –… View Post
Is Social Media a Mirror of Discontent?

Is Social Media a Mirror of Discontent?

As an American living abroad during the past two election cycles, I couldn’t help but feel frustrated with the state of things back home. To say things are toxic would be an understatement. It seems like everywhere you turn, people are at odds with each other about everything. “Things are changing, get over it.” Before I became a coach, I used to be one of those folks who walked around thinking, “just get over it.” However, these days it is my opinion, and the belief of many great scholars, thinkers, and leaders before me that love and compassion are necessities for living an honest and substantial life. And the truth is; I couldn’t do this without being more loving and compassionate to myself. Self-compassion is something with which the majority of us struggle. It’s much easier to beat ourselves up about our perceived failures or prop ourselves up for our perceived strengths while comparing ourselves to the faults and advantages of the other people than it is, to be honest with ourselves. When we evaluate ourselves so stringently, it doesn’t just stay with us. When we are cutting towards ourselves, we tend to be less kind to others in turn.  I’ve… View Post