Three Tips To Respond Effectively (Instead of Reacting)

Three Tips To Respond Effectively (Instead of Reacting)

One of the things my late father used to repeatedly tell me was how reactionary of a person I was. I am a highly sensitive person and empathetic to what I used to think was a fault and so most interactions would result in a kneejerk reaction from yours truly. I lacked the insight to respond effectively (instead of reacting). I’m also a sarcastic person, so at times my quick-witted retorts would garner me some positive attention. via GIPHY A confusing paradigm for a person who relied so heavily on the approval and appraisal of others to feel good about being me. My need to react felt like something I would never be able to control and it got me into many situations that I didn’t need nor want. The thing is, all behaviour is a choice. One of the few things we have control over is how we choose to interact with circumstance. Most of us will react to a situation only to play out how we could have handled it differently. Sometimes for better, others for worse. If we become aware of what’s happening before we act, behaviour becomes a function of choice rather than a result of… View Post
5 Tips for Handling Constructive Criticism

5 Tips for Handling Constructive Criticism

I can tell you — for a fact — that there is probably nobody who struggles with criticism more than I do.  In fact, if you were to ask any of my former employers, they would all probably say that “being defensive” was the one quality about me they struggled with the most. Nobody likes criticism. I used to have a severe problem with acting like a victim. I always felt like I was being “attacked” for something.  From the biggest to the smallest of things, I did not like to take ownership for my part — or worse — be told how I should have handled things. I used to become incredibly defensive and angry at anybody who would give me the slightest bit of constructive feedback because I always felt it was unnecessary. I’ve grown to learn that criticism is a necessity. Even though we each will receive a fair bit of less than desirable feedback in our lives, there is no need to feel threatened, defensive, or ashamed of it. It’s all part of breaking away from our comfort zone. You may have your own criticism triggers. I know that I still struggle with mine; the question, “Why… View Post