New Ways Can’t Open Old Doors

New Ways Can’t Open Old Doors

Did you read that title correctly? Did I write that title correctly? Isn’t it, “old ways won’t open new doors”? But I saw this quote a few times last week and thought it was the universe’s way of letting me know I had to at the very least think about it. The more I thought about it, the more I thought about how my mind wanted to read it as, “new ways can’t open old doors.” When I wholeheartedly decide to make a change in my life – commit to it full-throttle – I find that I can’t go back. Sure, I could go back, but something inside of me always reroutes my urge. For example, when I decided to give up alcohol for good, I took it one day at a time and made a pact with myself that I would not allow the overwhelm of saying, “I’m never going to drink again.” I know that I don’t want to and for the first six months that was enough for me to stick with my commitment. Now, 19 months in, I find that I no longer have the impulse to have a drink when I’m stressed or upset. The… View Post
Attending My First Sober Wedding in 18 Years

Attending My First Sober Wedding in 18 Years

If something bad happens, you drink in an attempt to forget; if something good happens, you drink in order to celebrate; and if nothing happens, you drink to make something happen -Charles Bukowski . Even though I am a married woman, I’ve never been much of a fan of weddings. For some, the environment of weddings is hopeful and inspirational and for others – like me – weddings are full of questionable energy and an open bar – not the best of combos. I am just back from a two-week trip to America with my husband built around the celebration of my little sister’s wedding. It wasn’t my first trip back home since I quit drinking, but it was the first wedding I had attended since I boarded the sobriety wagon. Incidentally, it’s also the first summer in five years that I have been able to hit the beach – and get a tan! Every wedding I’ve attended in the past two decades – including my own – I drank at — a lot. I always believed that was what people go to a wedding for – and I know more than once I’ve heard people say that the ‘open… View Post