The world is a complicated and yet often simplistic place. In these ever-changing times that we are living in, it may seem like at any moment you want to pull the hatch and escape into something that feels, well, less shitty. So, here are five quotes to help you maintain sobriety (and sanity) during #StayHome – as well as my two cents on each one, because why not? I get it. Years ago, if I were forced to spend all of my free time indoors and isolated from others, I would have used that for a time to pick myself apart, focus on my fears/inadequacies, and be doing it with a bottle of wine not far from my hands. I’m not going to say that there have been no moments in the past six weeks when I have not thought, ‘wouldn’t it be nice to escape this?’ — I did have those thoughts, but I now know that you can’t escape. The only way to the other side of anything is to face it and embrace it. And one thing that has helped me the most in my now 792 days alcohol-free is wisdom from others. There is no better… View Post
It’s that time again! Another year has passed since I decided to give up alcohol. Year two was not without its challenges, but I continue to believe that I am gaining more from my current lifestyle than I ever did while I was still drinking. This post could have filled an entire book – and maybe it will be one day (I hope!) — but, for now, I will keep it short by quickly sharing the three lessons I’ve learned from living two years alcohol-free. I love being in my head I used to think that being in my head was the worst and most detrimental space I could exist. I no longer feel that way, because my mind is clear and my anxiety is managed through better coping mechanisms. I can spend so much time by myself these days – in fact, I find myself NEEDING to be alone more than I ever did before. To be honest, when I would need alone time when I was still a drinker, it would be to drink wine on my own – without anybody judging me or invading that ‘sacred’ space that I so longed for. When I was in my… View Post
Always do sober what you said you’d do when you were drunk. That’ll teach you to keep your mouth shut. Ernest Hemingway “Don’t you miss it?” — the question I’ve been asked a bunch of times since I quit drinking alcohol. “Sometimes, but not really.” — my usual response. “Well, you’re much more driven than I am, I couldn’t quit drinking, I love my wine too much, how do you stick to it?” — the question I’ve been asked at least half a dozen times since I quit drinking alcohol. “Have you ever had a wine hangover? Thinking about that makes the thought of drinking pass pretty quickly. I guess I’m motivated by waking up clear-headed, feeling rested, and without a head full of anxiety.” -my usual response. So many people view giving up alcohol — or anything really — as being deprived. And I suppose by nature abstaining from anything could be considered deprivation. Or it could be viewed as the opportunity to gain something else in its place. It’s merely a matter of what your relationship is with that something that determines which end of the spectrum not having it will fall. I don’t view giving up alcohol… View Post
When you quit drinking, you stop waiting. -Caroline Knapp, Drinking, A Love Story In most facets of life, we are encouraged to not think in polarised – black and white or ‘all-or-nothing’ thinking. These are formally known as cognitive distortions Cognitive distortions are ways that our mind convinces us that a particular belief about ourselves is true, despite contrary evidence that it is not. Living in the grey is logical for most of life’s wonderment. We have to be flexible and open-minded to live in contrast and to attain personal growth. This is true except for that which does not positively serve you. If you want to honour your highest self – your soul consciousness, aka you who is always there, but often disconnected due to your Ego’s interference – you must choose things that serve you and enable you to grow in positive alignment with your path. When it comes to alcohol (or anything that is an addictive component in your life), living in the grey is not an option for some people. So, it’s a confusing cognitive distortion. via GIPHY One cognitive distortion for some drinkers is that they can limit or cut back on how much –… View Post
When I decided to stop drinking, I understood that coming as a shock to people who know me. I had always been down for cocktails, wine, and drinking socially (and non-socially). So, when I would meet up with people and the conversation of alcohol came up, it would be a needle scratch on the record moment when I would order a diet soda instead of a large glass of cabernet. “ARE YOU PREGNANT?!” No. “ARE YOU DYING?!” No, I mean – we all are, technically, but not yet. “ARE YOU ERIN?!” Now, that’s just rude. I expected this knee-jerk reaction from people who had ever spent any amount of time with me. It was a shock to their system in addition to mine. Then comes the secondary questions: “ARE YOU AN ALCOHOLIC?!” I prefer to not label it as such, but my relationship with alcohol was no longer working for me. “WHY DON’T YOU JUST CUT BACK?!” Been there, done that. It didn’t make sense just to cut back. “ARE YOU NEVER GOING TO DRINK AGAIN?!” I am not a psychic. If I could predict the future, I would have far more interesting insights than whether or not I’m ever… View Post
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